If you are in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable, relationship bliss isn’t necessarily doomed. Both people need to develop goals for healthy intimacy and connection, and both must be equally invested in the process.

If so, then a wonderful opportunity for two people to grow within the relationship is possible.

Equally invested is key. If you are taking three steps for every one step your partner is, it will not work. Both people need to want to make it work, and align their actions with their intentions.

This is where external help can be useful. Being unavailable is about conditioning and the desire and discipline to change those patterns and coping mechanisms is a choice that only that person can make.