There are different types of gaslighting, but some of the more common manipulation tactics used can include:
COERCION: when someone tries to use emotional, verbal, physical or financial means to convince you to do something that you may not want to do or make you change your mind about something.
SCAPEGOATING: deliberately trying to shift the blame to you for something you didn’t do.
TRIVIALISING: includes when someone minimises or dismisses things to make information, your actions or accomplishments, seem unimportant or insignificant. Over time this can make you question your thoughts and feelings.
LYING: denying or clearly lying about something in order to gain power over the situation or person. This can lead to self-doubt and questioning your own lived experiences.
REALITY QUESTIONING: If someone manipulates things or situations to make you question yourself, your choices and your ability to trust what you are experiencing, this is reality questioning.
Gaslighting can take place across any kind of relationship. While it is most commonly talked about between partners in romantic relationships, it can also effect family relationships, or family dynamics, friendships, working relationships between colleagues or a manager and employee.
If you think someone may be gaslighting you, it’s important to take action. Over time gaslighting can make you doubt yourself, your experiences and your emotions.
