Many people find the word ‘wound’ helpful in understanding why it is so important to express their feelings.
Imagine having a huge wound on your hand or foot that is debilitating. You need antibiotics, daily dressings. The wound will not heal until the infection has gone. With good care the wound will become less tender, and you will eventually be able to use your hand or foot without causing you pain. But the wound has left its scar, that will never go away.
When someone you love dies, your life changes forever. Not only are you grieving the loss of the person, but you are grieving the loss of the life you had with them and the hopes and dreams for the future.
Being able to adjust to changes you now face takes time. Coming to terms with our loss is a huge task. You need to give yourself permission to grieve the death of a loved one.
Grief is complex and multifaceted. Remember that you need to speak up about what you need.