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Growing around grief is a model created by Grief Counsellor Lois Tonkin in 1996. The visual metaphor; a circle representing grief, initially overwhelming and central in a person’s life, remains constant in size. However, another larger circle representing the individuals life gradually grows around the grief. Overtime, although grief stays constant, it becomes a smaller […]

If you are in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable, relationship bliss isn’t necessarily doomed. Both people need to develop goals for healthy intimacy and connection, and both must be equally invested in the process. If so, then a wonderful opportunity for two people to grow within the relationship is possible. Equally invested

I’m going to take a wild guess that you’re reading my blog because your relationship is important to you and you’re looking for clear ideas on how having counselling can give you a stronger and more vital relationship. I find as couples begin to recognise and reveal each others authentic core emotions lying beneath the

There are no specific guidelines or rules about how to express your grief, but most people say they feel better when they let their grief out in some way. There are many ways to do this such as crying, talking, listening to music, attending a support group, writing and being creative. Being able to tell

How does weather impact our mood? Do hot temperatures make us aggressive or does the rain make us sad? What about cold temperatures , do they make us feel more wanting to isolate ourselves and stay inside? What is your weather personality type ? Are you a : Summer Lover: happier less fearful, less angry

The Five Stages of Grief developed by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, are often talked about as if they happen in order. The five stages being denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. People can experience these ’stages’ of grief at various times and they do not happen in one particular order. DENIAL – feeling numb. Some people can

Are people always saying you’re just too sensitive? Being emotionally sensitive can often be a strength, allowing you to experience life in ways others can’t. However, this sensitivity can also leave you vulnerable to feelings of sadness, fear and resentment that can get the best of you and hurt relationships. Using cognitive behavioural therapy, you

The stress of life has a way of stealing away joy, to the point where you forget why you became a couple in the first place. During the early days of many relationships, partners relate to each other from an overall sense of warmth, acceptance, and love. You see your partner as special, and it

Many people find the word ‘wound’ helpful in understanding why it is so important to express their feelings. Imagine having a huge wound on your hand or foot that is debilitating. You need antibiotics, daily dressings. The wound will not heal until the infection has gone. With good care the wound will become less tender,

If you criticise yourself and become your own bully, then you might suffer from depression and anxiety. We have feelings and make judgements about ourselves; there can be things we like or dislike; we have relationships with ourselves that can be healing or unhelpful and at times even abusive. We live in a world that